Valentine Summary
Valentine's Day can be a logistical nightmare for those of us who are non-monogamous. Currently, I have eight regular lovers, though, admittedly, not all eight of these relationships are at the same level of intensity.
There wasn't any way I could have celebrated the holiday with all eight on Thursday and go to work as well. Well, I could have done it if I'd wanted to have an "eightsome"....a "ninesome" if you count me, but that would have taken more time and energy than I was willing to expend on a workday. And I don't think I could have persuaded them all to come together for such an event, anyway. They all know that I have other women all over town, but it's kind of a "don't ask, don't tell" kind of a thing.
I'm also not a rich man, so I couldn't be buying a bunch of expensive gifts. What I usually do each year is buy a dozen red roses and give them out singly, after wrapping each one in a red ribbon, along with a card. Because there were eight women this year, and not twelve, I gave out seven single roses, and the remaining five were for my primary lover.
I also took her out for lunch. She's a teacher, so I picked her up at the school and took her to a nearby restaurant for a quick lunch. Along with the roses and card, I also gave her a gift certificate for the local bookstore, as she said she'd much rather have something to read and keep, than the traditional box of candy. She didn't know what book she wanted, hence the certificate. (She's here with me now for the night, so I'll need to hurry up and finish this entry, then shut down the computer for the night.)
After I took her back to the school, I went and gave out the other roses during the evening while I was working. I'll no doubt go and visit each one over the next month or so to spend more time with them.
Valentine's Day is exhausting and I'm glad it's gone for another year.
hehehe I don't know how you manage but will give you an A for effort! :-)
Sheesh, and I thought the "family" holidays of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and
Easter were a pain with divorced and remarried parents. I used to envy my
single friends. You've given me a whole new perspective on Valentines day.
This reinforces my traditional Valentine's bitch. Give a woman a single
rose, and she's happy. Give her five and she's happy. Give her chocolate,
and she's happy. There are no equivalent gifts for men. I gave DH a gift
card for a movie with a promise of a date night (and all that goes with
it), which, to be honest, benefits me as much as him. I'm not sure that
really counts as a gift. He gave me a hot-pink, refurbished iPod Nano. I
think I got the better deal all around, but he buys gadgets whenever he
wants them, whereas I don't.
